What’s your take on airing “dirty” laundry?
The essence of the saying is in the “dirty” part.
The dirty part implies something toxic to others (in the dirty knickers sense).
The idea that we should be responsible for what we put out in public is something I strongly favour. Whatever we put out, we should attempt to make it as beneficial as possible to us, to society and to the environment. And that rapidly gets extremely complex.
It seems that we are, each and every one of us, complex beyond our capacity to know in detail.
It seems that the reality in which we exist is equally complex beyond our capacity to know in detail.
Those twin realities force our subconscious brains to make the best guess that they can about what is likely to be important to us in the context of the moment, and present that to us as our experiential reality. A vastly simplified model of something vastly complex.
And we have to make decisions and act in it.
So we make our simple conscious models of the model of reality that is our experience (mostly mistaking it for reality itself).
Often our models are so simple that they come down to simple binaries (good/bad, right/wrong, etc).
Sometimes the necessities of urgency and lack of information demand such simplicity.
Sometimes we do it out of habit.
Sometimes we do it out of expediency.
Sometimes it is down to laziness.
And always it is a vast simplification of complexity, rather than anything accurate.
Often useful, never accurate.
So in this context, we need to be as clean as possible, in our own actions, in our own thoughts – and often that means doing the hard work to clean up the messes we have lying around in the hidden corners of our minds and our lives; and giving others the room and understanding and respect that they need to do the same.
Doesn’t seem to be any end to the process.
It just seems to be a necessary part of this journey we call life.
We do in fact seem to be that complex.