Do you believe that forgiving is condoning?
An interesting range of responses above.
For me, forgiving has nothing to do with condoning, it is in a sense simply accepting that anyone can make mistakes – provided that the mistake is acknowledged as such, then forgiveness is entirely appropriate.
Forgetting is something else entirely.
Always keep the information present.
And there is a huge distinction between keeping information in storage, and allowing something to dominate one’s attention.
Just develop the skills to give it a ranking of importance that might be at variance with our emotional default settings. And that takes a bit of practice.
So I say never forget, always keep all information present to play a role in probability assessments.
And if one is to be really powerful in life, then one must be able to be informed, but not dominated by, the older systems within us that give rise to our many levels of emotions, fears and intuitions.
Conscious navigation of the boundaries of those systems will always be more art than science, and will always contain a certain personal flavour of who we are; and that seems open to infinite recursion through depths few contemplate or explore.
And there are dangers in those depths, one can become lost, and one does need to take care.