That’s not being nice – that is simply fear of social consequence of being truthful.
Someone who is really nice would be both straight and supportive.
Hate the title – gives entirely the wrong message.
@Pointurz Just the simpleology piece.
I am more aligned with Mark Jones.
I agree that niceness of the type that is fear of rejection powered needs to be avoided.
And there is the other sort of niceness, that encompasses respect, compassion, speaking what seems most appropriate to the context (which context includes both the resilience of the individual concerned and the wider social and physical realities).
So it isn’t a simple thing, and I know how Mark (Joiner) likes simple heuristics, and they certainly have a place, particularly when rapid decisions are required.
What concerns me is the probability that some will use the title as an excuse for not showing respect or compassion – and such an outcome would not be a positive contribution to the fabric of our society.