Saying No

May 16-21,’16 ~QofDay~ Say No Comfortably

You have to say no to a lot of good things
In order to be able to say yes to a lot of great things.

Can you say NO and not feel uncomfortable ?

I’m getting better at it, and I really do like helping people, so it is hard for me to pass up an opportunity to help – to create more opportunity, more choice.

About Ted Howard NZ

Seems like I might be a cancer survivor. Thinking about the systemic incentives within the world we find ourselves in, and how we might adjust them to provide an environment that supports everyone (no exceptions) with reasonable security, tools, resources and degrees of freedom, and reasonable examples of the natural environment; and that is going to demand responsibility from all of us - see
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2 Responses to Saying No

  1. mw says:

    Sometimes saying NO is not accepted well by others.


    • That is true.
      It all comes down to the heuristics we each use to judge the costs and benefits, to us and others, in whatever dimensions and time-frames we do.
      No simple answers in this.
      All people have quite simple models of some aspects of reality, and more complex models of other aspects.
      The more attention we give to some aspect of reality, the more complex our model of it becomes (generally speaking).
      So it is very easy for people to have simple and complex models in different aspects of being, and manage to talk straight past each other, because the models don’t fit – I see it in scientific journals constantly – particularly in respect of the idea of evolution (a basically simple idea that can fold back on itself in many different dimensions and contexts and thus lead to great complexity very quickly). People who study evolution tend to focus on specific areas and aspects, and miss the bigger picture of systems upon systems upon systems ……

      So yeah – one needs to be as aware as possible of the context of the conversation, and the models in use by the participants, if one is going to have a reasonable probability of making useful estimates of the probable consequences of any choice.
      Sometimes people using binary models simply cannot conceive of there being infinite shades of grey (let alone colour) between black and white. Such realities can make communication “interesting”.

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