Kindness for the Health of It

Have you been a recent recipient of kindness?

Hi Laurie

I am the recipient of many kindnesses from Ailsa every day.
I have been the recipient of many kindnesses over the years, many from you, and others here. Some of the kindnesses have been very timely and have had huge impact on my life.

I can only agree with the Dalai Lama, and often it is a far from trivial problem. There are so many different ways of interpreting everything, that one person’s intention of kindness can often be interpreted by another as something else. Many people are so stuck in power and control modes of thought, in social hierarchies at some level, that all attempts at kindness are interpreted through a dominance filter as some form of subtle control strategy, and are rejected as such.
So often kindness just sort of “bounces off” the recipient, which can be frustrating.

It seems that there is a potentially infinite class of possible interpretive schema, and it appears possible to misinterpret any word or action if the interpretive schemas in use by the people involved are sufficiently different.

And I agree, that kindness has its own rewards, even if the recipient just doesn’t get it for what it is.

I put all my medical records, and all of what I have done in my battle with cancer, on my blog (, free for all, as a general kindness to others. There are no guarantees with anything biological, and what I did worked for me, repeatedly, and seems to work for most of those that actually do it (rather than just trying it occasionally and cheating most of the time).

We are strange things – human beings. We have culture that values fakery – we hold actors in the highest esteem.
We hide our creativity and greatness.
We are like trained fleas, put in a matchbox as children and taught we cannot jump without hurting our head, and then most rarely if ever jump again in later life. We are all capable of jumps of creativity and understanding that can transform our cultural existence, yet we pretend we are helpless and powerless, because by doing so we are relatively safe from social stigma.

We can all make a difference, every day.
We can all choose acts of kindness, to ourselves, to our family, our communities, to humanity generally, the ecosystems we rely on.
Every little choice does have a real impact.
All those little impacts do add up.
The combined sum of all those little ripples can be a massive wave.

About Ted Howard NZ

Seems like I might be a cancer survivor. Thinking about the systemic incentives within the world we find ourselves in, and how we might adjust them to provide an environment that supports everyone (no exceptions) - see
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