Sacrificial Love

Q of the Day ~ 11th Nov. ’14 ~ Sacrificial Love

Why must you love someone enough to let them go?

To me it exposes the difference between attachment or control, and genuine care for the welfare of another.
If we care for someone, then at least as much as we want them to care for us too, we want them to be in integrity with themselves, free to make their own choices, free from coercive influence, particularly from us.

And sometimes we get confused between someone being their word and someone being in integrity.
Being in integrity is a moment by moment thing.
We need to be responsible for our word, which can mean cleaning up any messes resulting from us not being our word; and sometimes integrity requires much more of us than just being our word.

To truly love someone, we must allow them space to have their own integrity.
If they move on, that can mean emotional turmoil for a time – and sometimes that happens in life.
If they stay, the effect can be profound.

As the song goes – love is a many splendored thing!

About Ted Howard NZ

Seems like I might be a cancer survivor. Thinking about the systemic incentives within the world we find ourselves in, and how we might adjust them to provide an environment that supports everyone (no exceptions) - see
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