Emotions

19 Aug ’14 ~Question of the Day~Emotions

Which is a stronger emotion: anger or love?

In what sense stronger?

In terms of what can be created, then love wins hands down.

In terms of what can, in an unguarded instant, completely overwhelm conscious control, then anger is definitely a contender for most people.

[followed by]

I need to disagree with you Torch on one point. In terms of offering love.

It seems clear to me that the most powerful strategy is to extend love universally, and to not be at all attached to that love being reciprocated.
Having started from that point, one can then direct attention to the most productive areas.

It is clear to me that it is not the offering of love that creates stress.
It seems clear to me that stress is most commonly a result of unmet expectations.
The simplest way to avoid stress is to avoid generating any expectations.
That is easy to say, and infinitely more difficult to achieve consistently in practice.
To create (and express/communicate) possibility without expectation (attachment to outcomes) seems to me to be the highest achievement of awareness.

When we do manage to bring such possibility to existence, where it is clearly present, and there is complete freedom on the part of others to accept or reject it, this seems to me to be the most powerful expression of liberty and creativity possible.

[followed by]

Hi Torch

Once again, it seems it may be a terminology thing.

I was not promoting any sort of gushy effusion.

For me, love may be exhibited by giving a respectful wide birth.

For me, love does not mean an outpouring in all situations – it is much more aware and mindful than that, and is often embodied in the notion of respect – in however that is recognised by the other party; and in multicultural situations, that can become a very complex problem (like when talking to a mixed gathering of hundreds of people in a tense political situation – something I am just about to get involved in again over the next 4 weeks).

And I am not consistently mindful, I am often as mixed up as most others in many situations (despite intentions to the contrary).

Such is life!

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