Would you be willing to lose friends and family in order to live your life the way you believe it should be lived?
I just live my life.
I try and avoid losing people, and it is rather difficult to lose family, though I have about 30 cousins I haven’t seen in 30 years.
I don’t think I have ever intentionally lost anyone, and I don’t intentionally track many people. People just come and go pretty much as they please.
I welcome most back when they show up, and I am usually rather busy.
I kinda look at it the way an old West Coaster is reported to have replied to a reporter when asked if he had ever been lost – his reply:
“No, aint ever been lost. Been a might befuddled for a few days, but always found my way home!”
For me, friends and family can be like that too. I have cousins I haven’t seen in over 40 years, and sometimes life is like that. They aren’t lost, we are simply on different paths for the moment (and for some time). I have a few cousin’s I keep in regular contact with, and through them get news of others.
And I don’t class anyone as lost. I may be quite consciously on a different path at present, and there is always the possibility of intersecting paths in the future, and always the memories of shared paths from the past.
And sometimes people’s names come to my awareness, like Roger Flowers, whom I haven’t seen in close to 20 years, and seems to have dropped off the radar – a somewhat eccentric objectivist millionaire, whom I shared quite a few fishing expeditions with, and whom I helped build some of his house on Pumpkin Hill, and had many a philosophical discussion with.
I am totally aligned with you here Torch.
It is our ability to create free will, to the degree that we are able, acknowledging all of the physical and biological and cultural influences upon us, that defines us at the highest level of being.
And within that individual freedom, the needs to be acknowledgement of our communal and cooperative nature, and the power of cooperation as an empowering tool for individuals.
And most cultures seem designed to diminish that awareness to the greatest degree possible.