Best and worst

Question of the Day ~ April 9, 2013 ~ A BEST & WORST ATTRIBUTE LIST

What is your worst flaw & your best attribute?

How can one judge what is best or worst?
What criteria does one use?
I am what I am, moment by moment.
I have many different habits, in many different contexts.
Same seems to be true of all of us.
We are all amazingly complex creative entities, each capable of the best and the worst of human behaviour by whatever criteria one chooses to judge that.
I am getting more and more reluctant to make such judgements; and more and more practised at accepting what is.

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Hi Andrew and Judi

I snore too if I get on my back, so I do my best to sleep steadily in the recovery position.
My parents snored so loudly that I slept in the sleep-out on the back of the garage, and even through 5 closed doors, and about 12ft of open space between the two buildings, their snoring could keep me awake some nights.

I have also spent quite a few days marae living, sleeping in one room with about 100 other people, with a constant cacophony of snores and farts. You get used to it – tiredness wins eventually.

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Hi Judi

New Zealand was first settled by a Polynesian people who called themselves “Maori”. They got here around 1300, and the first Europeans about 500 years later.

Their lifestyle was tribal, and New Zealand holds a constitutional distinction of a country formed by a treaty between two vastly different peoples (rather than conquest), and is thus the inheritor of two vastly different sets of traditions and cultures.

The traditional Maori way of living was to have a big meeting house (Wharenui – whare meaning building and nui meaning big), and a number of smaller dwellings inside a fortified series of ramparts, the whole area being called a “pa”. Technically, the word marae refers to the land in front of the wharenui where visitors first met, in highly ritualised encounters.

These days, most of Maori decent live in modern houses like everyone else, and some of the old traditions still hold. One of which is around meetings. Often we have meetings on Maori pa (or more colloquially known as “marae”). In Maori tradition, people are welcomed on to the marae, all people share food together, and meeting continues, with everyone who wants to speak being given the opportunity to speak for as long as they see fit, and it continues until no one wants to continue any longer. Everyone is free to come and go, or start subcoversations, as they see fit. Sometimes meetings go on for many days, and everyone simply sleeps together on the floor of the big meeting house (wharenui). Some people hold more respect “mana” than others.

In my life, I have probably spent about 50 nights sleeping in such fashion (or more accurately for the first few, lying awake – now I sleep soundly), and have probably spent over 300 days at meetings on different marae – from one end of NZ to the other.

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I’ve pretty much given up wishing.

Now there are things I am prepared to put time and energy into creating, and things I am not so prepared to do at this time, and just accept as they are.

Changing things, by creating something new that takes over from some old pattern, always takes time and energy.

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